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Tuesday, September 27, 2011
A Time to Fight, A Time to Slaughter Your Son
Questions for Thought and Study for Rosh Hashana
IThe kriah of the second day of Rosh Hashana is the well-known story of Akeidat Yitzchak. The section begins with the words "Vayehi achar hadevarim ha-eileh, v'ha'Elokim nissah et Avraham."
It is interesting that Elokim is the middah (attribute) that does this. This is the name that is connected to Din, judgement. Does that mean that Avraham "deserved" this in some way? Was this a consequence of something? Elokim is also the name that is associated with nature and natural consequences. So does this mean that it was a natural event to be asked to sacrifice your child? What could be more UNnatural?
And what is the real meaning of "nissah"? A "neis" is a miracle or a banner. Was Hashem asking Avraham to do something beyond nature? And if so, how could Hashem ask that of Avraham? And why was Avraham being "tested" at all? Hadn't he already proven, time after time after time, that He was Hashem's loyal servant?
The question that always bother ME the most in the whole Akeidah account is: Why does Avraham just acquiesce? Why does he argue--for quite a while, until there is nothing left to say--for S'dom and Amorah, cities filled with evil, corruption and immorality, but he doesn't say one work to argue for the life of Yitzchak? How can he believe this n'vuah and not say one word? This command goes against everything that Avraham knows about HKBH at this point in his life.
Wishing everyone a K'tivah va'Chatimah Tovah. May Hashem bless us all with a year filled with health, joy, and peace.
Monday, September 26, 2011
The Psychology of Teshuva
As I said this morning after tefilla, the message that I got most clearly from the session, is that effective teshuva can't just be showing up, saying I'm sorry and I'll never do it again. It's a process and it requires a plan, a strategy to make sure you don't end up in the exact same place 12 months later.
The Stream:
Parsha Club drew a capacity crowd of nearly fifty students during lunch
on Tuesday, September 20. This week's Parsha Club was unique because
Mrs. Tova Sinensky, Talmud Chair, moderated a "Q and A session" and
discussion between Drs. Oshra Cohen and Rayzel Yaish, both of our
Guidance Department, about "The Psychology of Teshuva." Some of the
thought-provoking questions which were raised included, "Can people
really change?" and "How can we view the concept of teshuva between
man and God through the lens of psychology?" and "Can cognitive behavior
therapy be applied to teshuva?"
Dr. Cohen said that, when doing teshuva, people need to set small, measurable
goals. According to a recent study, she added, it takes an average
of ten times until a person finally succeeds in breaking a bad habit. Dr.
Yaish quoted Rabbi Tzvi Blanchard, father of Elana Blanchard '11, who
said that the reason teshuva seems vague is because it is not "one size
fits all," but rather it is a very individual process. The program was organized
by Mrs. Sinensky and Rabbi Donny Besser.
Chavie's Shorthand Notes (I wish we would have recorded it)
Thursday, September 22, 2011
A Rabbinic Giant
There's No I in Jew, (But There's More Than One in Bnai Yisrael)
It's true that Chazal teach "אל תדין את חברך עד שתגיע למקומו" and that there is an exception to the obligation to give mussar, if we think that it won't work. We use these sources to justify our silence, assuming that others would be put off and offended if we said anything, but isn't that because of the culture that we helped create where rebuking is taboo? Ask most unaffiliated Jews which type of Orthodox Jew is their favorite, and they will often say Chabad. There is a way to give תוכחה, out of love and caring, that isn't condescending or offensive. We just have to work to find it.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Parsha Questions - Nitzavim-Vayelech
Parashat Nitzavim is the source of the concept kol Yisrael arevim zeh ba-zeh, all Jews are responsible for one another. Devarim 29:28, after the restatement and renewal of the brit between Hashem and Bnei Yisrael, declares: “The secret things belong to Hashem our God; but the things that are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law.” If a person sins in secret, the community cannot be expected to react, but if a person sins in public, the community is held liable. American culture, on the other hand, emphasizes the idea of “rugged individualism” – going one’s own way and carving one’s own destiny. We have no doubt absorbed some of American individualism, and I wonder: is individualism compatible with Torah ideals? Is there room for individualism within a community that has, as a whole, made a brit with Hashem? How comfortable are we with being responsible for the observance of our fellow Jews? How do we manifest that responsibility?
Parashat Nitzavim is always read around the time of Rosh HaShanah because of perek 30, which contains the promise/commandment “you shall return to Hashem, your God” (pasuk 2). The next pesukim continue “God will return your captivity…God will circumcise your heart and the heart of your children to love God…” I find the imagery of God returning us, and drawing closer to Him, and helping us do teshuvah, beautiful and moving. It implies that when we reach out to Hashem, He will help us return, and He is always waiting for us with open arms. Pesukim 11-14 reassure us that teshuvah (or Torah as a whole) is “not in heaven, not beyond the sea”; rather it is “very close to us.” Hashem makes it seem so easy to do teshuvah, but in my experience it is quite difficult. Why do you think the pesukim make teshuvah sound so easy?
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Frum Week
An Alarming Elul Story
Hello Why-aanot blogosphere!
My cousin told a story at his shevah brachot that is relevant for Chodesh Elul and I thought I should share.
In his Yeshiva ,for some reason that I am unaware of, it is very common for the fire alarm to go off. One Friday night, when everybody was in bed, the fire alarm went off. Some bochrim went down to the lobby to wait until they were cleared to re-enter the building and some bochrim were tired and just stayed in bed. My cousin was in the latter group, he was tired so he decided to sit in bed and wait for the alarm to be turned off. The firefighters arrived at the building and started going room to room to see if there was a fire. When a firefightered entered my cousin's room he saw my cousin and was shocked. He looked him in the eye and said," Are you kidding me? There could have been a fire!".
My cousin was very shaken up by that experience and didn't know what to make of it. In the spirit of growing from life experiences he thought about what he could learn from teh exchange . Finally he came to the realization that this encounter could teach him something about valuable about chodesh Elul.
Chodesh Elul is like a fire alarm. Every year it comes around warning you to save yourself, to do teshuvah. We have the tendency to treat it like a fire alarm, we know there is a possibility of danger but we don't believe there is a fire. We have to try reprogram ourselves to realize the urgency of chodesh Elul and not wait for it to pass us by.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
God and Tragedy
Dare to Disconnect!
After Shabbos he sent out an email with a link to this great video clip. Watch it, and dare to disconnect!
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Another Response
I think the message to take from the tochecha is that even though we no longer live in a world of nevua where we can make direct correlations from world tragedies to our own actions, we should always strive to be reflective about experiences that we go through, asking ourselves what message we can take from them in order to become better people, instead of directing blame outwardly onto others. For example, the lesson I took from all the worry over what the hurricane would do to NYC, was that we shouldn't take our homes and safety for granted, something that we often do living in the luxury of the United States, and that we should appreciate what we have, knowing that it can be taken away from us at any moment.
Response to Parsha Questions
Sunday, September 11, 2011
An Anonymous Student Responds
Parsha Questions - Ki Tavo
- The dominant feature of פרשת כי תבוא is the תוכחה, the extended and detailed curses about all of the horrific punishments that בני ישראל will receive if we don't follow Hashem. A big part of that message seems to be, that if awful things happen to us, we shouldn't just assume that "that's life" or give a scientific explanation for it, but assume that it is a message from Hashem. Is that truly how we should live? The Nevi'im sure sound that way. Yet, after every disaster - natural (like Katrina or Japan or Irene) or man-made (like the Holocaust or 9/11), theologians Jewish and non-Jewish will often attribute the tragedy to any of various sins. Did Irene come because New York passed a same sex marriage bill? Was Katrina a punishment for Mardi Gras? Was the Holocaust a punishment? Send in your thoughts (comments or e-mail), and I think we'll discuss it at either PC or mishmar.
- The Parsha starts with the mitzva of ביכורים - It teaches, that when bringing the fruits to the Kohen at the בית המקדש, you must recite a passage that states that you have fulfilled all of your obligations regarding this produce. This recitation is called וידוי מעשרות. Isn't that odd, that a statement that you did everything right is called viduy - confession? Why do you think that is?
Friday, September 9, 2011
פרשת כי תצא
It's a little late in the week for that, but here's a thought that I'm working on now, so I'm not sure what to do with it and would love some feedback.
The first 3 topics of the parsha are eishet yefat toar - the rules of a soldier who is overcome by lust for a woman (the beautiful woman) from the enemy nation and takes her as a captive. The Torah recognizes that humans are imperfect (דברה תורה כנגד יצר הרע) and provides regulations that he must go through before marrying her.
Second is the rule that if a man has two sons from two wives, but he loves one and hates the other. If the older son is from the hated wife, he may not bypass him in favor of his beloved younger half-brother.
Finally the Torah teaches the rule of a Ben Sorer u'Moreh, a good for nothing soon who is killed for his misdeeds before he can grow into an adult dangerous criminal. The Gemara explains that this is because he is נידון על שם סופו - judged on his end. The בן סורר ומורה is executed not for the relatively trivial crimes that he commits as a child, but for the serious crimes that he would go on to commit in the future that will now never occur.
Understandably, many meforshim (even the midrash) see echoes of Yaakov, Rachel and Leah in this story - Rachel is called a יפת תואר, Leah and אשה שנואה, and Yaakov bypassed her בכור, and gave the double portion to מנשה & אפרים, the sons of Yosef, the בן אהובה.
Upon closer inspection, it looks more like Avraham, Sarah, Hagar, Yitzchak and Yishmael, only the Torah is commanding us to the opposite of what Avraham and Sarah did. Sarah is the first "yefei", who actually was taken captive for the purpose of marriage. Avraham, on Sarah's advice and Hashem's command chooses the younger ben ahuva over the bechor ben hasnua. And finally, a ben sorer umoreh (Yishmael) is not killed al shem sofo, but saved b'asher hu sham.
I'm not sure what to do with it, but if this is true, it's also probably not a coincidence that we read it during Elul as we ask Hashem to be judged "b'ahser hu sham".
Thursday, September 8, 2011
9/11- Some Jewish reading material
For some reflections and hashkafa, see this translation of a lecture by Rav Lichtenstein and this essay by Rabbi Basil Herring.
Here is an interview with Rabbi Michael Broyde, who spearheaded the efforts of the RCA Beth Din of America (full disclosure - I do some work for them, but didn't at the time) to avoid aguna problems for the many women whose husbands were presumed to have died in the Towers, but left no physical evidence or witnesses to confirm it. He and others who worked on it (Rabbi Yona Reiss, Rabbi Shlomo Weissman) have spoken and written in greater detail about it, but this interview gives you a taste of the incredible work they did and the novel methods used (within the established rules of halacha) to try to free as many of these women as they could.
Finally, here's an incredible article in the NYT from November 6, 2001 about Stern College students doing Shemira (watching over a dead body, reciting Tehillim) in 4 hour shifts over Shabbos for the bodily remains found at Ground Zero - read it.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
And We're Back!
Let's start simple...
Maayanot in the News (That's Mrs. Block - Mrs. Kahan is quoted in the article. Check it out.