Chinese Mothers and Jewish Values

I've actually read a lot of the blogosphere's thoughts about the "Chinese mother" that Rabbi Besser wrote about in his recent post. The funniest line I've seen was a blog comment: "All parents raise your hand if in the last week you've said to your kids: 'If Amy Chua were your mother...You don't know how good you have it!'" I am constantly seeking ways to grow and improve as a parent, and after reading Amy Chua's writing I thought, like R. Besser, "she's got something there." But demanding the maximum achievement from kids neglects a major value in Judaism - middot tovot, especially those bein adam le-chaveiro. The achievement Ms. Chua focuses on is only for her children to better themselves and get ahead of others; not to better the world and reach out to others. Here's an article that illustrates what the goal of Jewish parenting should be.